I understand exactly what you are saying b/c I myself am capable of doing it. He is being defensive and lashing out in the best way he knows how its just that he has the intelligence to know exactly where to hit metaphorically. This seems like a frustration in not being with intellectual peers but age mates. Some social skills and role playing may be needed. He may need to be shown or taught empathy and how to put himself in their position. It is not always simply absorbed. He is a smart little fellow but still just very young.
Vicam
Interesting, empathy is definitely not his strong suit, he has to be shown so and so is feeling how you were feeling when x happens. And then he gets it but it's not yet natural he does that at home, playing with DH, I'll come in and he will say you can't come in or we are playing and you can't. We've had to explain to him that preempting me just hurts my feelings when he didn't even know that I wanted to participate. So in his mind it's clearly all about him because his intent was not to be mean just to continue to do what he was doing. I am hopeful that for k he will be with kids more like him, or at least sort of similar. Won't hear about k for awhile but are looking into activities. He's not an unhappy kid so sometimes it's easy to overlook what it's like to be without true or somewhat close peers. Thanks!
DeHe
