I suppose my concern arose when it was suggested to us that his lack of focus, his resistance to trying things he perceives as too difficult, and his achievement scores being less than 99% in math were due to me not challenging him enough by presenting new material when he was ready for it.
So, do I ignore what we were told by the doctor? Do I keep going along like we've been doing and let "okay" be good enough for him? I don't know where the balance is at this point and that's what scares me, but I do believe that it will all work out in the end. I'm just trying to gather info and gain insight in order to get a game plan.
It is really hard to find a balance point. I think you'll have to try a variety of things. If it was just the doctor, well maybe to ignore, but in your situation, you are seeing that he is resistant to doing things that might be difficult. I would call this poor work ethic, which easily could be a sign of never getting work at his readiness level, and around age 7 it's time to start monkeying around with his context so that he gets chances to experience harder challenges. Just a bit. I call it the balanced push - one hand planted firmly in the back, another holding the sternum so he doesn't fall forward.
Best Wishes,
Grinity
