If the IEP says it... I would do it. What have you got to lose, she already doesn't like your kid. I am just remembering an experience D15 had in 8th grade before we got her non-verbal learning disability diagnosed. She had a teacher who really did not like her. It was apparent in our conference with him that her disorganization made him crazy. His focus on this completely overshadowed the subject matter in the class. This subject matter has become D's passion in high school, but I often think that fire could have been lit sooner if we could have gotten him past this issue. If we had an IEP then, I think it would have helped us. But we didn't even have a diagnosis, so were pretty clueless and helpless.
So... if you haven't shared the IEP yet, I would do that. I would introduce it as a whole (not just the project part), and explain what his issues usually are. And how other teachers have supported his needs. I try to take the attitude that of course we need to work together to help him, and that I am sure this information will be useful to the teacher. Maybe she will come around without you being super specific. However, if you have already had some discussion on his IEP in the past, and she is ignoring the info you gave her previously, that is tougher.
