I have a daughter that I still describe as a bouquet of flowers because she's so colorful ( Around the Block a Time or Two ), so I understand what you mean. I really do think it's wise to pick your battles and decide what matters enough to be consistent all day every day. If it is going to lead to conflict with her, just make sure the result of enforcing the rule is worth it.

~Lisa
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