Originally Posted by Grinity
Originally Posted by newmom21C
I've talked to DH about this and it would probably be my preference (financially it wouldn't be an issue). However, he's really against it because we won't have time to interview someone ahead of time and wants child care lined up immediately. There is a possibility that MIL could stay with us for a bit when we first get there which would be by far my preference (she's wonderful with DD) but we won't know for sure if that is remotely an option for another few weeks.

Are you even getting a week off to move into your new home before you are back at work full time? I smell a rat. Tell DH that he has "Champagne Tastes on a Beer Budget" because yes it would be great to have your DD in a daycare that suits her and she loves and thrives in site-unseen (humor alert) but no, you aren't some magical being that grants wishes to husbands. Reality alert. Reality alert. You and your DH are expecting way too much of you.

Hopefully your MIL will come and bail you out or you can skype interview nannys. Maybe your local friends have some leads? If your mom gut is telling you that moving and DD starting school and mom going back to work full time is too much all at once - believe yourself, and heed your warning. ((Unless you are a proven overworrier, in which case you should ask a mom you trust if you are biting off more than a person can be expected to do. If you ask me - yes, yes, yes.))

Of course, if the university preschool that is nearby will let you pay by the week, and you don't have to commit to the full semester, then there is no harm in signing up and hoping for the best. It might be fine, or at least fine for a while. What worrys me it that in our idealism, we Gifted Moms sometimes think that we can do it all, with not much raw materials, perfectly.

((shrugs and more shrugs))
Grinity

I don't know what the official developmental chart expect or language development, but I do know that bilingual kids are expected to be slow, not faster. I think I remember that my (PG)son had his first 2 word sentence right on his 2nd birthday: "I Runded!" So cute! But my guess is that there is a big difference between 5 words in one language and 3 in another, and 2 words in a solo

I really doubt we could do the skype thing... it's a developing country and so we might be hard pressed to find someone who knows how to use skype (DH's family is pretty well educated and they have a hard time using it!).

Our local friends don't live that close to where we'll be living. One family has kids that are quite a bit older and the other uses their family to babysit (very, very common there, most people live in walking distance of relatives).

On the other hand, it could be that my start date for work is pushed back a bit just with all the complications of getting my work visa etc. So if that is the case this will all be a mute point. There are so many things that depend on other little things that it's made this whole move hard to plan!!

FWIW, DH actually complains that I normally don't worry enough about things. smile

That's a good point about being bilingual. I think it's easy for me to get stuck in our own family's microcosm and forget stuff like that. Today DD just started skip counting (in English) and she's not even two yet so I know must be deluding myself at some level.