Worrying about where this is leading isn't a good idea - even if it's bad, it's too early to tell, so what's to gain?
Sanity from having a plan? I don't know; I just want to fix it!!!!!
Do you have some kind of communication note or email set up between home and school?
Yes, but the teacher has been a little hit-or-miss on sending the emails. We tend to get them when there's something negative going on, but I can't assume that just because she didn't send an email one day that everything was good. In our meeting tomorrow, I need to reiterate how important daily written communication is. I've suggested a notebook that we can send back and forth, but she preferred email.