I hear ya, and feel for you. You are stronger than I am. I gave up a long time ago. I can't handle the stress of trying to fight for our kids. I hear it all the time from all the "experts" but I am not capable. I gave up and had to move on for my sanity and for the sake of my family. I learned to live w/the fact that school sucks. I enroll him in reading and math classes through CTY, I put him in CW Post classes and also Hofstra. That is the best I can do. I could not handle "talking to walls" anymore. So my DS7 continues to write letters for HW.