So, let me make sure I understand:
* The Gifted School is either a private school or a public school that doesn't have a religious education component
* The PSR is a separate program for religious education. Perhaps it meets after school or on Sundays?
* Either way, we're talking about two totally separate programs.
Seems to me that the questionnaire could have been one of those getting-to-know you things.
I wouldn't expect a gifted component in religious education.
Is AlexsMom right that the problem is a disagreement between you and your husband? If so, you should probably talk to him (?).
Val