To me, it sounds like what went well is that he did well in the higher placement math, he got a 4 on the reading test and he has excellent behavior in class. None of that is rude to point out. You need to make your list of what didn't go well polite, also. What didn't go well was that he was in the low level reading group so he didn't get challenged in reading. Maybe in the classroom he is in he didn't get challenged in science or social studies either? Be sure to mention that he did well in the CTY science class...do you have a letter from the CTY teacher saying that? (We just got letters from DS's summer enrichement teachers this week.)
I think by stating how well he has done on tests and outside classes show that he can handle challenges in school. It is not rude or tactless to bring up this outside stuff...the school won't know about it unless you do.
We did something like this for DS in preparation for his new gifted school this year. DS is 2e (autism) and all the old school saw was the autism and problems so they were unwilling to "push" the gifted part. Starting fresh in a new school has helped a lot. We actually had 3 meetings before school started to be sure the school understood that DS needed for the teachers to focus on gifted academics and just "notice" the autism as something requiring certain sensory accommodations. It is not rude or tactless to do this: you are the advocate for your child and the teachers do not know what your child needs unless you tell them specifically.
Now, whether the school follows what you suggest is another story! Nan
