Kvmum,
Will this be your child's first time in school? Has she stayed home with you previously? Are your concerns more about what others are telling her about learning or about her socially fitting in?
If she hasn't been to a school setting as of yet I can see where you would be concerned especially with people telling her how wonderful it will be and more importantly how much she will learn. It sounds like you have done a wonderful job and as long as you keep the communication open between you and your daughter and by this I mean a daily conversation about school: what was fun and what wasn't; you will be able to tackle issues right away. My DD was closed lipped at first. School was school and home was home and she wasn't talking. It was finally due to an incident that happened at school that upset DD and thank goodness we were still there with her teacher. Her teacher has puzzles out for them in the morning and when she came back through to pick them up she pinched DD's finger in the process but DD didn't tell her. She whispered to me something about it but when her teacher came over to talk to her she got very quiet. Her teacher told her to always tell her mommy everything and not to worry if she feels it would hurt someone else's feelings, especially the teachers. That was the turning point for us and DD started to open up and talk about school. And when she did she started to come out of her shell and really socialize with the other kids. Before that she was sure the other kids didn't like her because she was different. (Her words and truly shocked me since we have never talked about her being different in front of her.)
Just our personal experience but it did teach me to be patient with the process and let DD self discover her strengths and what she is comfortable with.
