It's ok to feel guilty about not doing more - we pretty much all do! And you do have rather more than average amount of parental responsibility here, no?
Your encouragement is much needed, and yes, I do...my husband works 7ish-9ish most days and rarely has a day off...so the vast majority of child rearing falls on me.
I need to figure out what I am asking for before I meet with the school but this is one of my thoughts...this seems like it would be a good replacement for spelling...
http://www.tip.duke.edu/independent_learning/language_arts/word_power.htmlOther than that I just don't know--wish I had explore results already to have a truer picture of where she is. I am fairly confident that the school will be very receptive to trying to keep her challenged. But she is a teacher pleaser and well behaved and I think sometimes likes to know all the answers (perfectionism is an issue). So, trying to get some more ideas and in the meantime thanks again!