I was just reflecting on this thread. I spend a bit of time nowadays to learn to keep my mouth shut and seriously refrain from saying to my own child ... "you're so intense, you're so.... " etc etc, as I know that doesn't help anyone at all.

I remember getting that a lot as a child. It felt that whenever I said something, I said in a "too much" way and often regretted speaking out. I spent lots of time pretending that I didn't exist when I was kid. So this really hits close to home.