My understanding is that they don't think she will benefit from the dynamics at the middle school. She has point blank said she doesn't have any common interests with kids her age. She doesn't have anyone who understands her that she can relate to. The one or two kids she would occassionally talk to are moving and will be at the other middle school.
I think they are saying that it will have a negative effect on her self esteem or further frustrate her, to what benefit? The 4H group we are working on would be slightly older but with shared interest. All along they have advocated against skipping her ahead any more because of her social skills, we actually hadn't skipped her again because the speech therapist and SW were concerned, even though the principal had approved it.
I am both relieved that someone is advocating what we would have chosen ourselves and also wondering why the game has suddenly changed? Does that make sense?
