Thank you for your responses.
We are trying to stop feeling badly about being clueless about DD. Well, DH is doing a good job, anyway! Me... I just can't wrap my head around it. But that is another subject.
cricket3: Our pediatrician is not even remotely concerned. She was the one who pointed out how like his sister he is. He gets his point across eventually and can generally tell us what he wants (in a round about, scavenger-type fashion). His non-verbal is acutally pretty impressive. He is social and happy and interactive in so many other ways. There are no other red flags. He just turns off when we try to engage him in something he does not want to do... like talking. The words he does say are clear, there just aren't many of them.
My DD also had speech therapy after she turned three. I didn't find it helped much at all. She just wasn't ready to talk. One day she just started speaking in full sentences.
I guess I also feel the need to say that we don't CARE if he is gifted and have no plans on hothousing in any way. More, we are just curious. Almost as if we have a chance to do this over again and do it the right way (i.e. give the kid some credit rather than trying to medicate the activity away).
Again, thanks for the response.
