So much of the crazy-making of this is wrapped up in my own atrocious subject acceleration experience in math, where the teacher whose class I was accelerated out of resented the acceleration and publicly mocked any errors I made, and the teacher whose class I was accelerated into said "Well, if you're that smart, you can do the the class work and homework for the 3 weeks of material we've already covered, on top of the work we're just starting."
Ouch! FWIW, my dd11 was subject accelerated in 3rd grade with a much, much better experience than that. She changed schools in 4th and just went to the TAG class for reading only (that was all they offered) that year which wasn't nearly as good of a fit although we loved the teacher. She then wound up skipping 5th.
You just need to move to Colorado b/c I need more people like you and your kiddo to get my very secular homeschool cooperative for gifted kids off the ground -- lol!
It does sound likely that your dd stands a good chance of doing well on the testing, but I really hate such high stakes testing. It causes a lot of unneccesary anxiety. You are wise to try to have a back up plan in place in case they don't approve the skip, but the private school commute doesn't sound like a viable option. I'm not coming up with any better options than those you've already listed. You might want to consider staying with 2nd with a good teacher who is willing to make accommodations for her in the classroom and then trying again for the skip the next year if it doesn't work out this year.
