Hi, wondering how everyone handles playgroups and moms. I want to be able to brag about my child. when I mentioned that she knew the ABC's the topic immediately turned to "pushing" the kids to hard. When I brought up another story it was downplayed. I have an older gifted daughter who I feel I did not advoate strong enough for and found myself being "quiet" and I am not sure that was the best way for her or for us in the long run. So would love to hear ideas.
Hi flower. First welcome to the board and I hope you will find a welcoming group that will give you the strength you need when you do have to advocate and the shoulder to cry on when you need it. This is a great bunch of people here and you will hopefully find as I have ... people with lots of experience.
As for the mommy group. I, personally, stay clear of mentioning anything in playgroups, especially Mommy groups. Might just be my area, but the groups can be a little clickie and then when you mention something that is advanced for the age group the other moms get offended due to jealousy or preconceived opinion that we have all heard before, such as they all even out by X. In the end it is best to stay closed lip about your DC's abilities. Just consider the mom's group as an allotted time for the needed socializing. This isn't to say your DD won't be raising the eyebrows but if she is doing it on her end it really is their own issue. Just like we can't jump in and lecture another mom about the lack of discipline her sweet is displaying ... they shouldn't be able to push the topic of 'pushing' on us if our child is doing something advanced. But they will so just be ready with some basic phrases such as ... as if I could stop her. She is all about books books books.
When my DD was younger I got a lot of the comments too but now that she is 3 1/2 we don't really deal with that anymore. Most of the time other parents come to me to voice how smart DD is and for some reason I don't get the vibe of 'pushed' that I did before.
