I don't talk about my kids in play groups and never did. I just chatted with a mom at work today whose kid is struggling and headed to a math camp during the summer to improve success in math. I don't think she wants to chat about how frustrated I am about what to do with my kid who is 5 grades up in math. I just sympathized with her over her frustration. Easy to do. I talk about the GT stuff only with those who get it -- close friends, family, online buddies, etc.
ITA. It just doesn't work out to talk about the things are kids are doing most of the time. I do have some close friends that totally get my DS5 and so I can talk some with them and they don't at all get offended or uncomfortable. But about struggles of having a PG child, that I would not talk about on a playdate unless it was a playdate with other parents of HG or PG kids.
Keep in mind I don't usually do playdates with people unless I know them, so usually they know about DS5...and if they don't they figure it out pretty quickly. He is extroverted and it can not be hidden, LOL. So sometimes things have to come up. For example when you have a playdate with a 3yo and they are reading everything and pulling out games like junior monopoly to play....usually people can't ignore that and ask questions. I don't dismiss things and avoid the topic, but I am short and sweet. Before sharing things I decide whether there is any benefit to saying it. Am I just wanting to talk about what he is doing? How will it make them feel? Is there someone else that would be better to talk about this with? I do think on a playdates you do occasionally talk about your kids. I just think before I say things and try to find some more common things to talk about (like T-ball, hiking, funny things he says, physical milestones like not having any teeth out yet, things we have done together as a family, or his little sister who is quite funny, etc.) Or you could actually talk about yourself and life, LOL. Sometimes as a mom you forget what interests and things you liked before becoming a mom. Anyhow, I am never fake at all..but just choose what to say and not to say based on the audience.
