Cym-
I can relate. My oldest went through a phase when he was 15- I was ready to throw him out of the house! He was just so disrespectful and lazy. We got into a "discussion" every time I asked him to do anything.
Adolescence is tough- and I think it has only gotten harder in the last generation. There are so many conflicting messages sent by society and the media. I don't think we should ever put up with rudeness and disrespect, but it can be difficult for them to separate from parents without a few tears being shed on each side. Just keep insisting on common courtesy.
Keep in mind that this is a phase, and you will see that sweet and loving young son again someday.
hugs-
Ditto on what Lorel said. As for the 5 year old girl with an attitude? I wouldn't blame hormones for that, it's more of a learned behavior at that age. As Lorel said, keep insisting on common courtesy.
