But, what about when your child doesn't have the ability to self assess? What if you have a pessimistic child and you NEED to reframe everything for him so he will begin to see his own behavior in a positive light?
The temptation for parents in this situation can be to really fill in and disagree with the child - "that isn't true, you did a great job", "of course you are not ugly," etc. This of course doesn't change the child's self perception. I think what is more effective is to ask questions and encourage the child to think more realistically about their situation. Also, noting evidence that runs contrary to their belief is reasonable too.
