Funny you should question the Asperger's because at one time I questioned that myself. Back when we did the first testing in 2nd grade I had looked into it as well. While I still don't really understand it my impression is that there was this line with Autism on one end aspergers in the middle and gifted on the other end. And my son was definitely on that line between aspergers and gifted. But I don't really think he is an aspie, he is actually quite good with his personal interactions (my parent's own a greenhouse and he has been waiting on customer's since he was 6) and he has lots of friends at church, etc. He also has exceptional fine motor control he's been writing the letters of the alphabet since about 2 1/2 and now his handwriting is 10x better than mine.
When he was little he was obssesive about lining things up in order and having things just so. I don't see much of that any more (but to some degree he has simply learned that younger siblings will mess up his stuff and he just has to deal with it). He is still a perfectionist but I think that is more a gifted thing anyways.
