Steal Away!
By the time I got to pick him up in the early evening, I had gotten a few phone calls. Luckily they went from the 'this is impossible - I just can't do it my heart isn't in it - I'm farther away from finishing than I was this morning' to the 'hey, this is turning out pretty well!'
((My advice -Listening, validating, and then: be a robot! Just keep doing the next right thing. We'll do feeling later, just keep moving ahead - I sure hope that was right))
By the evening he was able to get through the rest of his homework (40 minutes) and his Bass Guitar lesson, so I'm relieved and proud of him. When I asked if he did want me to intervene, he said that he just wanted to do what she says and get it over with. Yeah!
Of course all these emotions took their toll on me! By the time DH came home, I was staring at the computer in tears, trying to interpret the latest email from the teacher. I couldn't begin to explain what was wrong, just pointed him to the email. I did feel almost myself after about a 5 minute cry.
I try to talk to DS11 about his ability to read people, but he is sure that I'm over-into his 'superpowers' and that the folks are just being contrary. Well he sounds sure, anyway. I have to tell myself that he's listening 'on the inside.!'
Apparently there are some things one has to realize by themselves.
Thanks for the support. All better now!
Grinity
