Hi,
I've seen your posts many times, but I am not sure how old your son is since my advice will be different based on his age. So sorry you are having such a tough time. It can be so disheartening to have things be such a struggle. My oldest DD, 3 going on 4, went through very difficult phases and my 2.3 year old has a terrible temper, so I know how draining it can be. I never took time for myself when things were at their worst so I am glad you are making time for yourself and also having him help you sleep in etc. Building up your reserve of patience can help quite a bit. Hang in there!
