Does she enjoy the work? Or does she do it strictly to please you, like a trained poodle?
Are you trying to be sure she doesn't fall behind average kids her age, or are you "pushing" to get her ahead, particularly with an eye on "getting into Harvard" or some other longterm goal that she may or may not share when the time comes? Do you take pleasure in showing off what she can do, regardless of how she feels about such performances?
There's nothing wrong with teaching a child. There's nothing wrong with feeding a child's desire to learn. (I'm not even owning those statements as opinion. They're fact!)
Personally, I define hothousing as teaching that has far more to do with a parent's ego than with the child's best interests. It doesn't sound like that's what you're doing. Agreed?
FWIW, 99% of the time, if a parent cares enough to worry about hothousing, it's not hothousing.
