dd3y - probably her quirky jokes, just completely off the hook. Plus great memory for more traditional jokes from shows, etc., able to recall and use them later with great effect.
Ds9 - honesty, creativity and maturity are usually what people comment on. "You can really just have a conversation with him!" (I guess this is unusual for a 9 year old?)

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