But the bigger concern and the thing that has me really upset is that in the report they spent the entire last 2 paragraphs talking about the social skill low score ...They suggested that the low score could be due to my parenting (I think they call it over-functioning parenting) and claim that more testing is needed to exclude that as a cause.
Un- @ing believeable!!!!
Seriously - I would want to have a phone consult with one of those 'top ten' testers to review 'what should we be doing with the information from scores like these?'
Look - all the kids here have special educational needs, and most of them have 'special needs' in the 'growing up' department too. Most of us who are 'with it' and care enough to post here could be accused as 'over-functioning parents' - if you believe the 'big lie' that all children develop along the average path, and that schools 'always' know what's best for kids, then we are all pathological by definition. Ohhh, it makes my blood boil!
Hasn't our society gone past the 'blame Mommy' business? I guess it pays the bills, but I don't like it one bit. I've only been able to handle this kind of 'flack' by saying 'in the privacy of my mind'
You think I'm over-functioning? Why don't we send this child to your house for the weekend, and see how YOU do.
As you might guess I get told that I'm over-involved, over-compensating, and over-indulging by various professionals and family members from time to time. Excuse me - if I'm the one who is 'getting my own needs met through parenting this child,' why as I the one who had to get the ball rolling for overnight camp, a private school that could provide more of a 'village' and now, boarding school?
Deep breaths.
I love the idea of getting home, reading the test, asking the tester to explain what they are talking about, and INSISTING that they prepare a version for the school that leaves out the last 2 paragraphs.
How does your child do in playdates with older kids? To me that speaks volumes, not just paragraphs.
Love and More Love,
GriMity
