In my state it's illegal for the teachers to suggest that a child has ADHD. But that didn't stop the school psychologist from calling a parent meeting where she demanded that we take DS, age 7 back then, to a pediatrician, because, "YOUR SON HAS A MEDICAL PROBLEM." Then she went on to praise Dear Mrs. Classroom teacher who has dealt with the toughest ADHD boys successfully in the past 20 years, but just is at wit's end with mine. She's never seen anything like him.
((LOL - that's probably statistically true, just from the 1/1000 IQ test alone, other issues aside! 20 years of teaching x 20 kids in the class only equalls 400, KWIM?))
Actually this may have worked in our favor because 4 months later we got a semester of inschool OT/PT which was needed, without an IEP or 504 due to the Principal hearing our story and being po'd at her staff. But it was an emotionally devistating begining to an emotionally devistating school year, for me, DH, and DS.
I'm not ready to speculate or draw any conclusions, but I am pleased to speak up and tell my story. Dottie has met my boy, and she can attest that he doesn't appear to be a 'worst ADHD in 20 years' kid, as suggested by the School Psychologist. I still go round and round with "Is it purely HG? Is it some kind of 2E? Should I pay for more tests? Do I want to know?" But that self doubt, which is normal to good parenting, and amplified by meeting after meeting to 'figure out how to make him behave' are likely to have that effect on a person.
I feel like the fact that he didn't 'totally' fall apart in 6th grade, even with the mid year skip (yuck!) and that 7th grade is going much much better, academically, at least, is somewhat reassuring, as that is a classic time for these missed learning problems to surface. Life is sure interesting!
Love and More Love,
Grinity
