acs,
I'm sorry to imply that your experience was not real! Opps!
I'm also sorry to imply that your expereince was 'just based on the giftedness itself.'
No problem. You were sharing your experience, which is real also. I just didn't want people to equate them. Your point I think is really helpful (that a certain amount of not fitting in is typical for HG kids regardless of their placement), it just wasn't the point I was trying to make and I didn't want mine to be negated.
I'm really grateful that you have been willing to share, given the 'pro-acceleration' flavor of this forum. I hope that everyone who has had bad expereinces with full grade skips feels safe enough to post on the full range of their history.
I agree! I also agree with EandCmom that this forum has helped me see some really cool things about skipping that I had not considered before. I'm much more willing to see that good aspects than I was before adn I like having my mind and opinions stretched.
I have, however, felt that at times we get a little too pro-skip, probably because it feels so good to be with people who understand how atypical our kids are and recognize that skipping isn't always a bad thing. Also the bad skip stories have been used IRL to block parents from advocating for their kids, so by the time you get here, you've had enough of them. So I think this is (and should be) a safe haven for skippers. But I don't want the voices and experiences of those who were badly skipped to get lost.
My skip was badly handled in a lot of ways. I hope that my story will help people look realistically at their own situation and not assume that skips are always going to work out well, just because they do for many people.
Every situation is different, and every situation is complicated. I firmly believe that if we treat each other with respect, then we will be better able to make the best decisions we possibly can for our dear children. I do appologise that I have given you the feeling that you were being heard with less than the respect you deserve.
Apology accepted. I obviously felt safe enough to share my experience in the first place. Which is weird because there may be thousands reading my story, but ah well. I really have hardly told anyone about my skip until I posted. But I guess when I did, it made me feel a bit vulnerable--it's still a pretty tender subject. On other subjects I can be pretty thicked skinned!
Cheers!
