I love journaling, but isn't that what the archives of this forum are for? So we can look back at our own tormented musings?
That's hilarious, Kriston! It hits close to home because I have a regular "May 2002 Babies" board where I've been posting with the same core group of 10-12 women since we were pregnant. We recently switched board hosts and were able to access the old board for several months ... but when I tried to go back to the "old board" to look at milestones for DYS, I found I couldn't access it anymore! I almost had a coronary when I realized that *all* that journaling that I hadn't thought to copy/paste anywhere was *gone*. It still stings, actually ... there was four years worth of milestones/cute moments on that board, now gone.
Hi Mia,
We spent over $1000 total on 2 rounds of testing (SB5 and Wisc-IV) in which DS hit ceilings and the tester said the numbers were clearly underestimates. It was really very dissatisfying. i really wanted that big number out of the LM, but I'm over it now, because I don't think that would really solve anything anyway because of all the problems with the test and because at >12 he's probably too old anyway. Nonetheless, I continue to crave knowing exactly where DS "fits."
That's exactly it, acs, and we got the same "clear underestimate" talk from our tester. Obviously, it doesn't *really* matter where he falls as long as he's being provided for. I guess I'd just have a clearer idea of what "provided for" meant if I had a more accurate estimate of where he actually fell. It's pretty clear, though, that I probably won't *get* that estimate from straight IQ testing.
Also, acs, can I ask what grade you skipped? Mine was second, where they were mostly teaching reading; I was teased as a child, but more for funny clothes/chubbiness than for braininess. Ds won't have those issues (it appears at this point); at least his clothes aren't horrid! Sad, but it *does* matter. And socially he's on par. All of the research I've read has found that skipping rarely makes a difference socially -- either the kids stay on par with where they have been, or they actually do better when closer to their social peers. B is socially adept, especially with adults, and older kids usually get a kick out of him (though, granted, that is usually much older kids). Bottom line -- I'm not worried about him socially, and I think he'll adapt to pretty much whatever group of kids he's with.
I also think of my PG cousin, who had social issues, Aspergers, etc., who now at the age of 24 says he wished he *had* been skipped -- his parents opted for the subject acceleration route and he wishes that he had been skipped several times. Looking at my B, I honestly can say that a skip is really the best thing for him in my mind.
Personally, I'm looking to skip to *avoid* problems, not wait for them to arise in the first place. It's like preventative medicine -- there's something I can do to prevent a problem, and I'll take that opportunity if I possibly can. I know a lot of people have different ideas on that, but that's where I stand on the issue of "waiting until there's a problem"; I'd rather prevent a problem from forming than have to dig out of one.
Incog: Thank you for the advice, and I will certainly use it. I'm planning to make a list of questions and "rehearse" with dh, and I'll work on my "business meeting" ways.
Dottie: Good luck tomorrow! You'll have to let us know how it goes.
