Ah - I missed your post while I was typing.
1) You husband could be right, but I know how hard it is as a mom to 'sit back'
2) Great that your teacher 'sees' your daughter
3) The perfectionism could be inborn, or it could be because of the 'bottleneck' (difference that isn't severe enough to be an LD, but feels like one on the inside) OR it could be because she is surrounded by kids and school work expectaions that are scaring the xxx out of her, on some level. I would consider hiring a tutor to work with her on her strenghts for the rest of the year, to try and relieve the anxiety of being surrounded by kids and expectations that are totally wrong on many levels.
Love and More Love,
Grinity
