I believe that, in talking with your family consultant, you can brainstorm and don't necessarily need to "come" as prepared as you would for a meeting with the school. I'd present the ideas you suggested above and then bounce thoughts off one another until you come up with a game plan for how to approach the school. Having the FC conference in on a meeting with the school would be nice, too, once you know what it is you are asking of the school.

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