Thanks everyone for the input and support.
I little more detail on the situation...
DD is used to excelling in school and has never received anything other than As in the gifted program she attends. In the competitive dance program- it is just that: competitive. She would score higher and probably win with her solo performance if the judges were able to see how high her ability goes during the course of the workshop.
I have noticed dd getting more and more frustrated over decisions such as this. The crux of the problem is that she is used to excelling and now wants to quit dance because she is not allowed to excel. Why would a kid want to pursue something in which they are held back... Also of note is that I decided not to put her in private schools and we spend approx. $8,000.00/ yr on dance. We have invested alot already since she has danced competitively since she was 5. I would like to see her continue, but I think she now wants to quit.
