Wow. That had to be awful. While I'm not having those exact issues, DS is having a more difficult year than he's had in the past. I can totally empathize with the struggle of whether or not 'traditional' school is right for your child. This year has really been the catalyst for our decision to HS next year. (Actually, it's a K12 charter school, so not totally independent HSing). I'm hopeful that this change will be a positive one for DS.

Good luck to you in figuring out how best to serve your DSs needs!