Gifted Issues Discussion homepage Forums Age or Ability Specific Forums Pre-school MY DD is just "TOO MUCH"

Thanks everyone. She does go to preschool twice a week for three hours. It isn't much, but it is a nice change. I do notice how she is different there too. We show up at 8 am and she is bouncing and running to hug and squeeze everyone and lots of kids seem as though they are just waking up still. When I pick her up, many kids seem ready to wind down and go take it easy at home and she is coming out of her skin ready to do something else. I do think she needs to be taught some social skills that must just come naturally for most kids. She has to be taught not to use a booming loud voice, not to put things right in others faces, not to grab people, and not to take over things and boss others around. I never pictured smart kids having these traits, but looking back, I suppose I was that child to some extent....hmmmmmmm I just think she is MORE MORE MORE than even I was and there are days I just don't know what to do with her. I would do drop off playdates but I worry about her being able to behave. I did one drop off one a month ago and she had such a big tantrum with such force that the mom said she can't come back :-( Her children are just so mild mannered and what she considered a huge tantrum in her children would be a joke to me. I am still upset and hurt over that whole experience. Upset that my DD had a fit over something silly. Upset that she didn't call me to ask for ways to calm her down. Upset that she said my DD can't come back. All my DD did was cry and scream, not throw things, break things, kick and scream, etc, but she has a very forceful personality and I guess it scared the mom to death. The mom has four kids, all very mild mannered, and just didn't know how to handle her so I guess I just don't trust her yet to behave without me around to intervene. She is fine at school as far as I know. I wish she had one friend more like herself...her little buddies her age are not at the same level of verbal and imaginative ability and none have this intense motor going all the time...