Thanks everyone! Definitely food for though and lots of great insight. Sometimes you can just be too close to a situation...tough to see the forest for the trees.
Well, ds started the Montessori school today, and he had a great time. He was as happy as a clam when I picked him up. He came home talking about polygons, herbivores, motherboards, its vs. it's, and football! He got to take a DVD player apart to find the motherboard; he was even able to explain what that is. He also said he did a lot of writing today but not one complaint! It's like pulling teeth for me to get him to write anything. So, first day was a success.
He used to come home from school in tears and couldn't seem to recall one thing he did all day. I was in shock when he recalled all those details. Another child told him to "get out of his face," today, and I think that hurt his feelings a little (he has personal space issues), but he let it roll off his back. He just told the kid that he was not being nice. Normal kid stuff, but he's usually so sensitive. I am proud that he was able to let it go without dwelling on it. We'll see what he says in two weeks, but today was good! I'll take that!