Master of None,
I love your attitude and I concur. I just went to the second grade music concert and saw my DD8 laughing her head off at a goof-off. (Well, they gave her the finger cymbals to play, and she is on her third year of piano :))
Anyway, watching this behavior and given her teacher's comment about "She's very selective in the work she chooses to do", I put DD8 on "lock down." No more Harry Potter books, Harry Potter T-shirt, no more wolf tail. etc. etc. until I hear of a marked improvement in her attitude at school.
DD8 threw a fit, but I remain firm. She is going to have to go with the flow a bit more...and yes, it will be harder for her than your average kid, because she is more impatient and needs more stimulation.
DD's gifted teacher told me this a while back: gifted kids can be almost like special needs kids in the way you have to keep them on track. I'm feeling it tonight
I wish I had a better solution, but sometimes you have to do what the crowd is doing.
