LOL tofu,
I wrote you a big long post, and then hit the wrong button and the whole thing went bye-bye!

Here are a few favorite links, to digest. Make sure that you get back to us with your new questions as soon as you are able, ok?

http://www.hoagiesgifted.org/gifted_101.htm

and

http://www.educationaloptions.com/resources/resources_levels_giftedness.php

There is a really good book, http://www.educationaloptions.com/resources/resources_books_journals.php
which I particularly recommend if you are seeking testing, as it clues you in to 'how hard I have to search to find a tester who is not only 'good with gifted' but perhaps 'good with highly or profoundly gifted.'

Have Fun,
Grinity

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