Showing up at Stanford for grad school was the first time he ever had to study. The adjustment was actually really hard on him.
Many of us have experienced this 'big adjustment' and many of us have lost years of our lives because we didn't 'get there' the first time around. Some of us still haven't. It is a myth that advanced kids will be ok no matter what. This is much of what motivates us to get our children into 'reasonably challenging' learning setting at least by middle elementary school. Other kids have years and years of learning the character strength it takes to sit there and work at learning stuff. Why shouldn't my son get that opportunity too?
Then there are those of us who are here because the child themselves acted up so terribly in the classroom, or staged a sit down strike against school. It's hard to watch your kid be miserable because they can't handle a situation that is more painful that what any other kid there age would be expected to handle.
It is really good, Molly, that you are able to notice that your son is different early, and that you are able to talk about what it might (or might not) mean here with us. For me, it just went round and round in my head.
Love and More Love,
Grinity
