Dear Tommy,
I just wanted you to know that I think it is ok to look at things from many perspectives, or to see many sides to an issue. It is not really necessarily a moral dilemma. You just see more than one option. I remember feeling this way when I was a kid. One of the things that some people can have is a gift of grace, you have the ability to understand life in a way many people can not. Please realize that this is not duplicity of your conscience but a gift of understanding. Many times DH and our kids will watch a movie and sympathize with the villain as well as all the characters in the movie. Some people are just not wired to see things in black and white. I agree that it is important for you to help others. Volunteering would be a way that you could make a big difference. My DF use to say you can hate a behavior but love the person. People who can see others this way can be very compassionate and loving. You can chose to make a big difference. Also we, my family and I, all have had the third person perspective. I find this happens when I am over analyzing and that I need to find something challenging and engaging to work on. Or at the very least logic puzzles can help. Keep busy and do good. You are at a point in your life when you get to chose who you are going to be. It sound like you have a great capacity for love. Choose love.
