I talked with his teacher. She will not let him skip any more work as she says it's all essential. I suggested he skip his 3rd grade Math page and just do the pretest a week ahead. She feels he needs to do his 3rd grade Math pages so he learns everything. I don' understand why the pretest would not take care of this? I realize this is a new concept for her.

He really does not have a problem doing this math page it only takes 5 minutes. I was looking to get him out of some less challenging work so he could use his time better. He did have some work checking issues on this math page but I think he has overcome that on his 3rd grade math. He still has some work checking issues on his 4th grade math.

He is the first one done with his work and has time to read. She said he has a way to go with managing his time, sometimes getting out reading before the other stuff is done. She is also working on getting him to always look at her when she is speaking. It looks like for right now I have to just chill out and try to help him prove he is ready for more challenges by meeting the 3rd grader work habits and behavior expectations.

I think all the worksheets may be more repetition than he needs. The teacher looks at it this way - we all need to get our boring laundry done but despite that we can take feel good about finishing those many loads. I see this point but let's try to have balance here. I explained he is not the average student and learns things more quickly. I don't think their system shows this. Most kids might need 7 repetions and he needs 1 or 2. Everyone is just taught the same material whether they know it or not. She said hopefully he will develop some empathy for the other kids. I guess this is why so many home school but we can't do that.

Here is a child who loves to learn and is excited about it at home. Why is he bored with science when it's a passion of his? Will this situation take away his passion for learning? Is what I do at home enough?

He is much better than last year. He is not hypoglycemic after school any more from all the stress. How do we know when it's just necessary venting or needs a change? I just want his day to feel meaningful. The teacher said he is doing very well, she is expecting all As. We both agree social is going great this year. She does not see a problem here. I think I'm at my note/phone call limit for a while. There will be an IEP meeting in Nov.

Anyone have a suggestion for finding peace with this.

Last edited by onthegomom; 10/12/09 06:51 AM.