Has your husband observed your kids with other ND kids their age? That's the thing that drives the point home for many people. If all you know are your kids, it's easy to stay in GT denial, as in "Well, they're bright, but they're not THAT bright. They still do X wrong." Only in context can most people see the reality of life for an HG+ child.
Is your DH someone who needs to research or not? I am, so I totally get where you're coming from. But not everyone is. It sounds to me that it may be less that he doesn't get your kids and more that he doesn't get your approach. That's actually easier to deal with, I think. But I realize I may be way off there...
You are not way off. Thanks for your insight. Need more venting so here's more....
Dh has observed my DS with other kids but not academically.
I do all his homework with him. I hear the other parents complain about the HW, while my son finds it too easy. I went in to school last year during art and observed children not able to fold a piece of paper, while my son has done origami for 2 years. I knew my son needed no instructions to complete projects while so many were confused. I saw him tune out during instructions. I think most of his day was like this. I told all of this to my DH.
My DH doesn't have it left in him to do research after his work day. He would prefer for me to supply the facts. I'm the one who is very vested in all this. I wish he could be vested too or just have more faith. I think he has the tendency to pretend it's ok, so he doesn't have to fix it or deal with it. He is a very caring and involved father - don't get me wrong. I think all my research and experience gives me a certain insinct that he doesn't have.
I recently overheard him on the phone saying school is better this year with being challenged. But it's not that good. I'm worried about all the easy A's.
