"Now her teacher is upset because my daughter is getting an unfair advantage over the other kids by getting this extra work!!"
Are you kidding? The other kids probably aren't *capable* of doing the extra work!
I like the physical development metaphor. We don't tell 9-month-old walkers to sit and wait until the other babies are walking, too. That would be ridiculous. Same goes for learning (or it should)-- why on earth should your dd have to wait until the other kids have caught up? That's wasted time, and to be honest, they may not *ever* catch up.
Sorry you're going through this; it *is* sad.
