Well - it looks like the time has come to pull DS6 out after 8 days of trying public school again....We had a 1.5 hour IEP meeting yesterday with 8 people in the room only to learn that the IEPs have changed (no idea if county or Fl state thing) and they no longer have to put specific steps/accomodations on the IEP - the wording can be very generic (which my advocate and I think is a total cop out because now there is nothing in black or white stating specifically what these kids need) - they just write a generic goal and that is all that is required....we went round and round in circles showing test scores and studies stating that he needs to be allowed to work on his level because he is bored out of his mind. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that if a 6 year old is bored, there is a high chance he is going to start acting out.....The argument that he won't be accelerated up until he shows he can do the "easy" work and behave BUT he won't behave and do the easy work because it's too easy for him and he is refusing to do it. If he was older, I could explain better to him that he needs to "play the game" and give them what they want so that you can get what you need but that is a tall order to try to explain to a 6 year old...yes, he is bright, but I don't want to put the weight of the world on this little guy either. We spoke to him last night and he was hysterical stating he hated school but really wanted to make it work but that everything is too easy and boring and that it makes him mad to have to sit there and do things he already has done before and it doesn't seem fair (these are his words) that the other kids get to all learn new things so why can't he....which I understand...no one wants to be made to sit at a desk for hours and be forced to do stuff you have already mastered over and over again.
So today the dreaded phone call came this morning.....he refused to complete a math worksheet (color the right number of objects) and got really frustrated and mad and kicked out from his desk...the teacher said she had no idea if it was on purpose or by accident because she was standing there but she got kicked. He has NEVER kicked an adult and I was really upset about the whole thing. He is bored silly, has nothing to do all day and then is told he can't do anything else unless he finishes his work...so he was removed from the classroom...the principal said he didn't want to send him home because that would be giving him what he wants so he is placing him in a time out room for an hour and he will be made to complete the work he refused to do in the classroom. We just about begged the teacher yesterday to PLEASE find something of some difficulty for him to do in the classroom just to see if she noticed a difference in his behavior and she said she couldn't do that because she needed to complete her review with all the students and that he would need to do the same thing as everyone else. WHY??????? I am just so upset right now. I don't mind going back to homeschooling, he just so badly wanted this to work out - thanks for everyone being SO helpful and understanding.
