Thanks guys for the comments and the link...sdrothco - you said exactly what I was thinking yesterday...DS6 is just like a moody teenager it is almost eerie like! Hubby and I model on a consistent basis and I am at a loss...from the 15+ years of teaching kids and almost always finding a system that works in allowing a child to still be themselves while learning positive behaviors while respecting themselves and others....my son is the anomoly.
As far as being concerned about stepping on legos and leaving no room or not allowing others to visit in the room...hahahah...he could care less! But there are issues that are getting out of hand...such as hitting. He has serious emotional OE issues and when he is happy, he is super happy, when he is mad, he is a nightmare....when he wants to please, he can be the sweetest little child on the universe.
take last week..He knows his bed routine - he gets a certain number of stories each night while I lay in bed reading with him and then it is lights off...same as every night - never changes (even when on vacation)...and the other night, after the last book was read and I reached over to turn off the light he shared that he was mad and wanted more books and then proceeded to kick the snot out of my thigh in a small mad tantrum leaving an enormous bruise (he is the size of a 10 year old). I have had multiple bruises on me from times he has hit, kicked or smacked me over the last month or so...I have tried just speaking with him about his feelings and proper ways to vent, have tried the lovey dovey method that everyone has a right to their feelings...and now he does time out for hitting...which has led us to try to come up with some kind of system that allows us to focus on the positive but am I just supposed to ignore the out of control behaviors in hopes that by modeling and focusing on the positive that they will "go away"?
