My DS9 is giving me a hard time about his morning routine. I have gently been trying to work on this for over a year. Maybe someone can give me a fresh approach. My children never go for the rewards or stickers approach. They usally gain progress thru talking when we are not in the middle of the situation and give them ideas of how it would feel good or be helpful or other benefits. Here we seem to be stuck.
My DD6 is very good with her morning routine. I'm trying to not tell DS9 what to do but then he just doesn't get it done. I made a sticky note list on the Vitamins at the kitchen table so I could just say please do your moringing list and make him think and be incharge of it. I do not yell or tell him he is in trouble or bad. If he says may I go on the computer? If I ask him if he is done or tell him he needs to make his bed he yells at me about it. I'd say after your morning list is done. Then he yells and loses it. I don't understand why he is not taking charge here. He keeps inviting me to take charge my acting this way. This seems like such a simple routine to achieve. If we all follow it it makes the mornig less stressful and pleasant - a good start to the day.
Here our the plan.
Get dresses & make bed, leave room neat
have breakfast
take care of your breakfast dish, wipe table spot, sweep crumbs
brush teeth, hair combed
play if have time before school
