Go Belle - Camp B has an interesting take on 'time out's - give them right away, for every little thing, with no warnings, but let them be very short, only seconds if the child 'settles down' right away. The balance is that there is tons of praise for every moment the child isn't breaking a rule, so you know that the child knows the rules because they are used to being recognized for being on the positive side of the rule line on a daily basis.
I think that as my son (age 13)ages I'm moving slowly from camp A to camp B, and yes, my DH is thrilled. But that might just be that as my son ages, his 'emotions' have that really mean and nasty edge more and more. As long as you are in Camp A, Mom-Maintence is really really important! The more you can listen without him pushing your old buttons the better - you were a sensitive child once, and somewhere, you probably remember what it was like. There are ways that you can learn to stay in the present with your DS's pain and not have to deal with the ways it echos in your past right at that same instant.
Here's to Mom-Maintence!
Grinity
Last edited by Grinity; 07/24/09 02:46 PM.
