Thank you for all your answers. I don't really need to label her and it is highly unlikely we will ever have her IQ tested. As a first time parents it is difficult for us to recognize what is normal or not. I can not say I never teach her anything as how else could she know the alphabets or some words if they were not pointed out to her! I'm not doing flashcards or anything similar as I'm afraid of pushing her. I'm sure my crazy kid would enjoy them though
I work full-time so that also restricts my ability to teach her LOL
My biggest concern is "hothousing"/"helping her get the stimulus she needs" dilemma. She really, really enjoys to learn new things and we have the best time together when we read books and I explain them to her. She was also just smile when she first learned to count to 5 (her learning means just that I tell it to her once and then she knows it). Should I not help her learn anything and restrict our activities to more classical playing activities? How do I know how much learning she needs to be happy (she absolutely needs some) and when is it too much. With learning I do not mean anything school like more just reading about animals, counting while we are driving, drawing and writing with her (she asks me to write words for her)... She is high energy and needs lots of different activities all the time.
It is difficult to have advance toddler as you can not talk about her with normal ppl with out them thinking you are bragging but then you do not really fit amongst the parents of gifted children as you do not know if you child is gifted or not. I'm sure everybody here knows that already
