too steamrolled by my own kids to write, but found this very comforting when I found it years ago.

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/5/T050100.asp

it's my older son to a T, and the younger two have a lot of the traits as well. i felt like, ok, here's an actual dr. saying i'm not making it up - this IS harder! i'm not some lousy whiny mom - this is a different kind of kid.