My DD was pretty average on the gross motor skills. She did not official let go and walk until 14 mths. She could walk since before she was 1 yr old but she is my little perfectionist and would not do it until she was absolutely sure she wouldn't fall.
Everything you described in the first section is definitely gifted. The only concern I would have is your comments about losing words. Just keep an eye on it and let your doctor know. It really isn't a concern until after they turn 2. If at age two he is losing words it is considered a red flag for autism. Not trying to scare you and certainly don't want to diagnose anything. The word lose and the fine motor skills of using a spoon are red flags.
