I know he is a perfectionist and when he makes a mistake he will literally either rip up, erase, delete, whatever it was he was working on and start from the very beginning all over again. If he comes in second or doesn't complete something correctly he will visibly be upset. We have been searching high and low for a counselor who has experience working with 2e children to maybe help him with his perfectionistic issues. Any clue about this choice thing or how to help him?
Hi Belle,
These above are definitly perfectionistic behaviors. The 'not wanting to make a decision' I'm not so sure about...my first questions is - under what circumstances DON'T you see this behavior?
To me this sort of behavior reminds me of 'crying over a broken cookie' as in this article:
http://www.handinhandparenting.org/csArticles/articles/000000/000024.htmAs for the perfectionistic behaviors, the first question that comes to mind is - how does his daily school life compare to his educational readiness level. Some kids are more uptight in general, but if there is a mismatch here, I would be interested to see if relieving the mismatch, even if only for an hour or two, decreases these signs. I've come to value these warning flags, because for the 'well behaved' child, sometimes these are the only signals a parent gets of a readiness level mismatch. Our kids can zoom ahead in such amazing spurts, that I have even heard of this occuring in a homeschooling situation.
Whatever it turns out to be, best wishes, and get lots of support for yourself. Our kids are loves, but not always so easy to live with.
Love and More Love,
Grinity
