I guess my issue with the term hothousing as I've seen it used here (not always, but sometimes) is that I see it as an accusation at people who are presumed to be acting out of selfish motives.
To me, the selfishness is *the* defining feature of hothousing. That's why I don't claim to know if a person is hothousing or not, would not accuse someone of doing it. If I were to see something that made me think it was hothousing, it would have to be such an extreme case as to border on child abuse, I suspect. I've never seen anything remotely close to that.
That's also why I say that if a parent is aware enough to ask if s/he's hothousing, s/he's almost certainly not!
